While negativity and pessimism typically will yield poor results, it is not a coincidence that confidence and optimism will always garner more support and will be more productive in achieving a positive outcome. After all, we were always told as youngsters that we will reap what we sow!
Nowadays, it is understandable if at times we find it difficult to seek out the positive, in a world seemingly filled with constant accounts of mass violence, constant human atrocities, political and religious motivated divisions and the ever increasing and worrisome growing wealth gap to go along with the reckless destruction of our planet’s vast resources. But in fact, the underlying causes of the aforementioned are really nothing new.
Cicero wrote a few thousand years ago, the “six mistakes mankind keeps making century after century”. Those six mistakes were (and still are):
1) Believing that personal gain is made by crushing others;
2) Worrying about things that cannot be changed or corrected;
3) Insisting that a thing is impossible because we can’t accomplish it;
4) Refusing to set aside trivial preferences;
5) Neglecting development and refinement of the mind;
6) Attempting to compel others to believe and live as we do.
Despite all of this, I believe that hope and optimism, is the one force that can make a positive difference and be the panacea of sorts, in rectifying these “errors in our ways”.
I often advise people in business negotiations that the only intelligent reason to bring up the past, is when you use it for the purposes to be the foundation to build a better future upon. Same is true with relationships and all that we face in everyday life.
It is just better to be hopeful. Hopeful people are more apt to build on those foundations using solutions, as opposed to pessimists that would rather point out the problems and harp on the past. Mostly because its easier to be inactive with excuses, than proactive with solutions.
No one has ever gone blind, trying to find the brighter side of an unpleasant situation or issue!.
Here is a fantastic piece, once given to me as a gift by a friend at a time when I needed to find reasons to stay positive. I will never forget the person who shared this with me and I hope that you will “gift it” as well, so you will also be remembered by spreading hope.
The “Optimist’s Creed” by Christian D. Larson
*To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
*To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.
*To make all your friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.
*To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
*To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.
*To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
*To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
*To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature you meet.
*To give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
*To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
*To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud word, but in great deeds.
*To live in the faith that the whole world is on your side, so long as you are true to the best that is in you.
Optimism breeds hope, pro activeness, and in my view, contagious and mutually beneficial when shared!
So whether it be in the building of a relationship or the pursuit of a career or vision, approach it with enthusiastic optimism as outlined in the above creed building on those foundations to start reaping what you sow!
And remember to be humble – Possessing humility is a much needed trait to attain success in all that we do. In reality, humility is simply paying less attention to your own needs and focusing more on the needs of others. Even better is to possess “intellectual humility” which is the art of not just paying attention to the needs of others, but actually understanding WHY they need it. Then, you can make a difference to many, rather than few.
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James Vena, Managing Director